Little girl has been well all week and therefore back to kindergarten. It was to be expected that she might not take it all in a stride and she hasn't. She does like it there but it is heart breaking to see her lips start to quiver and tears fill her eyes when we talk about going to kindergarten. She misses daddy and me. In a way that is as it should be. It means we've done good daddy and I but I wish she'd get angry with us rather than just accept that she has to go there. I think she would feel better if she could get angry and express to us the injustice of being abandoned by us. Because that's what it is.
This is how life is nowadays for most of us. Both parents work or the parent the children live with works and children go to kindergarten. They learn valuable lessons there and get new friends and all and all it is not a bad place at all but still weather this way of taking care of our children is best for them, I really don't know. It seems to us the only option but of course it isn't. However, for now we do think that the benefits outnumber the drawbacks. And little by little little girl will grow more confident and sure of herself and of the fact that mommy and daddy will always be there for her.
Yesterday two big dogs called "halibernit" visited little girl's kindergarten. It's a wonderful service where the owners of the dogs bring them to kindergartens and old people's homes and everywhere else they're asked to come. These are gentle dogs used to being loved by little children and now they were there. I take it little girl liked them quite a lot but admittedly less than I expected. I was really excited for her, though :).
1 comment:
Maybe She's a cat person. :) At any rate, I think the only reason you want her angry is because it would make You feel better. But it may not be the best way for her to deal with her feelings. You are the one who feels she's abandoning her child. Maybe she doesn't exactly feel the same. Careful that you do not project your feelings on to her. Anyways, based on your reports it really depends on her mood how she feels about kindergarten. Initially your said she was not happy about having to stay home. But having spent lots of time at home now she is not happy to go back. That's what kids are like. They need routine and are a bit moody about it changing. You should relax and not read too much into the situation. The best thing for her really is to be among kids her own age. That's how she'll become more independant and, however it may hurt at first, become less dependant on you. As it should be. So take heart, you're doing a great job and the best you can!
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